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Patch's Poll: Does the Video of a Bullied NY Bus Monitor Surprise You?

After unsettling footage of an elderly bus monitor being bullied was posted on YouTube, donations to send the 68-year-old widow on 'a vacation of a lifetime' are nearing $500,000. Does the behavior of the students shock you, or is it the norm these days?

A YouTube video (warning: the language is laced with expletives) showing a group of New York middle schoolers taunting an elderly bus monitor was nearing 7,000,000 views on Monday after it was posted on June 19.

The kids in the video use harsh language, at one point even telling the 68-year-old widow, "You don't have a family because they all killed themselves because they don't want to be near you." 

As the YouTube views have shot up, so too have donations in support of Karen Klein, who, throughout the whole ordeal, did not show any emotion apart from holding back a few tears.

As of Monday morning, almost 30,000 funders had donated $644,674 to an online account with the description, "Let's give her something she will never forget, a vacation of a lifetime!"

Some of the comments left on the fundraising website:

  • Norm: My contribution is my vote against bullying. A fine example of grace under pressure by Karen.
  • Benjamin: Heart goes out to you. I wish I was on that bus, I’d have put them kids in their place.
  • Lindsay: Kids can be cruel. Your story moved us in Kitchener, ON, Canada

Does this kind of taunting happen every day, or is it an isolated incident? Take our poll and tell us in the comments.

Daniella Ruiz June 25, 2012 at 11:03 pm
the video does not represent 'the kids', it is product of a few who thought they would make a 'great video' to send to one of those foolish websites that epitomizes BAD BEHAVIOR.
of course these brats would do their best (worst?) and say anything that would get the 'end viewer incensed', much like the national stooge shows. (try Jerry Springer for one) there's plenty of incentive for these impressionable 'kids' to do these things, 'fame and fortune' on the net (at least 15 minutes worth?) and local recognition. well, they got it, fair and square, it's not pretty, but we sure all know them now. much like the increased skin exposure, crotch grabs and breast exposures (wardrobe malfunction??, MY EYE!) done by the very people at the 'top of the charts'. ' who do you think they're fooling? perhaps the millions of americans that seem to slurp this junk up like it was likkqidd cocaine, for a short high and a sick social kick!
Nathan McKay June 26, 2012 at 12:10 am
Whatever happoned to respect for elders? Today's children are such monsters. And these in paticular are just savages. Probably no dad in the house. I say lots of community service (at a nursing home) is in their future.
mike campbell June 26, 2012 at 01:10 am
Daniella pretty much summed it up for me.i think sometimes we like to remember"the good old days" a little more fondly than they really were.i'm 43, I remember my grandma telling me stories of some of the "rotten apples" in her Pittsburgh neighborhood growing up in the twenties. I grew up in Detroit in the late seventies-early80s,there were plenty of disrespectful kids around then.we just didn't have a bunch of recording of our stupidity.it doesn't seem fair to throw a label on an entire generation because of the acts of a few knuckleheads.
wtfdrez June 26, 2012 at 04:38 am
Not all of today's children are disrespectful to their elders. These brats taunted this poor woman to make a you tube video, so millions of people would check it out. The meaner they treated her the more hits they got. I see jail time, unemployment and hard times ahead for these evil little bastards.
farm guy June 26, 2012 at 11:21 am
People posting here are correct. Yes, not all kids are like this, but the percentage of kids like this is growing. Reality TV shows such as Jackass, Punk'd, and others give kids all kinds of ideas and have them believing these actions are ok. In addition, what parents used to do and say outside the view or earshot of their children is noe being doe in front of them. By doing these things or allowing others to do these things in front of your children is a way of condoning this behavior.
farm guy June 26, 2012 at 11:26 am
sorry for some errors in spelling. My keyboard is acting up.
Kimberly June 26, 2012 at 11:43 am
Plane and simple everyone has Video recorders and want to post on utube. This type of stuff has always gone on just now they record it. Sometimes it helps like in this situation. Because now she can quit and enjoy the rest of her life on money that people donated to her.
Maggie L. June 26, 2012 at 11:53 am
I was so disgusted I couldn't watch the whole video. I don't understand why as a bus monitor she wouldn't have the bus driver stop and eject these morons from the bus. Make their parents come and collect their little darlings. Inconvenience them a bit. Unfortunately, it would also impact the other students on the bus who were not involved but there should be consequences for such deplorable behavior. Do they speak to their mothers and grandmothers that way?
CB June 26, 2012 at 12:47 pm
While I do not believe in hitting, I would give anything to be on that school bus and smack those bullys up side the head from here to Kinddom Come, the little punks.
Charles J. Read June 26, 2012 at 03:30 pm
Regarding the highly publicized assault on the women bus driver, I do not believe that is the norm, however, I do believe similar incidents occur far too often. It is not clear thinking to believe it is a new phenomenon. Such lack of discipline, such bullying has been around for ages. Consider “Blackboard Jungle,” the book written in 1954 and the movie released the following year. It highlights students bullying teachers in an inner city school. Such behavior (not only vicious but unlawful)has spread broadly and schools are certainly the main base. In order to fight such attacks we must begin by understanding we are not dealing with minds that are fully developed. That is often overlooked. And, forget about “hitting them upside the head.” Physical tit for tat re is no deterrent and more than likely, will only exacerbate the situation.
Ken June 26, 2012 at 03:52 pm
Or this example---
“Our youth now love luxury. They have bad manners, contempt for authority; they show disrespect for their elders and love chatter in place of exercise; they no longer rise when elders enter the room; they contradict their parents, chatter before company; gobble up their food and tyrannize their teachers.” ― usually attributed to Socrates
Amanda June 26, 2012 at 06:29 pm
Usually when a kid is a bully, they are doing it to make themselves feel better, more powerful. This was done and recorded because the kids thought they were funny. I think that is the difference from then and now. They wanted to share their good time. i doubt they thought people would be so outraged. Language should also be kept in mind. Cursing was not as common when I or my parent's were in school. When i hear a middle school student using the "F" word as if it were part of their everyday vocabulary, I wonder what his example is at home.
I'm sorry that this happened to this woman and I hope that more parent's sit up and take notice. I do my best to teach my boys respect for their fellow humans. Whether that means minding their p's and q's or just not saying things that are hurtful, such as stupid or loser, I want my legacy to be leaving a better world through my children and their children.
Sharon June 27, 2012 at 12:30 pm
I was a bus aide for several years. We are not allowed to say or do anything to these children, while being kicked or screamed at we are told to just suck it up. We are not allowed to put them off the bus schools are afraid of law suits. I left after 2 years,not worth th measly pay check to put up with this. My breaking point was when an over sized 12 year old threatened to kill me, this after he pounded the crap out of another child that was half his size (I had warned the school that he was targeting smaller children)
Kim Rick June 27, 2012 at 12:55 pm
If the monitors are not allowed to do anything, what is their purpose? Pardon my ignorance. I am really just wondering?
Daniella Ruiz June 27, 2012 at 01:00 pm
as an aide/monitor, what then, actually was the purpose of your job?
with no capacity to either intervene or even verbally chastise these incorrigible's, they would just see you as an interloper in their normal every day bus ride fracas. essentially, you would become just another target for their errant activity. 'reporting' what you had seen would mark you as a sure focus of targeting as they would consider you a 'snitch, rat,or other' impediment to their abuses. some are indeed psychologically unstable, and border on criminal even at age 6, but is always dismissed as 'their not fully formed yet' ?? it is incredible, the excuses adults will use to tacitly approve this behavior, while abrogating their own responsibilities by 'handing the problem off' to someone else! the kids know what bunch of spineless WOOSIE'S most parents/administrators (adminis-traitors?) now are! ;-))
John Yannacci, Sr. June 27, 2012 at 02:49 pm
wtfdrez,
Assume there were about thirty kids on the bus. Four were doing the taunting. If these other 26 kids are so respectful to adults, why didn't they intervene. They were all complicit.
John Yannacci, Sr. June 27, 2012 at 02:52 pm
The bus driver could not stop and eject the kids from the bus. But he/she could contact the dispatcher and tell him or her that the bus was returning to the school and to please have an administrator waiting. Buses in Waterford have high definition digital cameras with audio fore and aft. The culprits would have easily been identified and the school would have responded accordingly. In Waterford, the school bus is considered an extension of the class room.
John Yannacci, Sr. June 27, 2012 at 02:55 pm
CB, we would all like to do that. But, if you did, you'd be the one on YouTube. Then you'd be selling your house to pay off the law suit and everyone who nowconsiders these students to be little cretins would be crying about evil CB harming their little self-esteems. Kids today know that not only is there no accountability for their actions, they know that they can sue anyone who tries to make them accountable.
John Yannacci, Sr. June 27, 2012 at 03:01 pm
Charles J. Read,
I went to school in the 50s and early 60s. All of our male teachers were either World War II or Korean veterans. They all knew our fathers because every Friday night, the men would go to the Italian American Vets Club or the Polish Vets Club or the Franco American Vets Club or the Albanian Vets Club and on and on. If we screwed up in school and one of our teachers told our fathers at the club, physical repurcussions were guaranteed. And, it most certainly did not exacerbate the situation. My relations with my school teachers was about 75 percent respect and 25 percent fear. That's how it should be.
John Yannacci, Sr. June 27, 2012 at 03:07 pm
Here's how it works. School bus company policy dictates what you can or can't administratively do on a bus in regards to the students. Connecticut state law dictates what you can legally do. In the event of a violent assault, school bus policy dictates that you can't lay hands on a student and if you do, you will face administrative sanctions up to and including termination. According to Connecticut state law a person is justified in using reasonable physical force upon another person to defend himself or a third person from what he reasonably believes to be the use or imminent use of physical force, and he may use such degree of force which he reasonably believes to be necessary for such purpose. The bottom line is, sometimes you have to do things right and sometimes you have to do the right thing.

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